She has cancer.

It's inoperable and spread through her body. She is the sweetest cat I've ever had. Always guards the bed at night, loves belly rubs, never hisses, never bites, always uses the litter box. Sweet and gentle and talkative and cuddly.
The perfect cat. And I'm watching her die in front of me. Sometimes she needs injected fluids because she won't drink, maybe anti-nausea meds because she won't eat, maybe something else. But these things will only delay the inevitable.
How do I cope? I want her to have a peaceful exit at home, but thinking about it makes me feel ill. I owe her that peaceful exit, without suffering or stress, but I worry the pain and grief of killing her is going to stay with me forever. If I have a vet do it, I will feel guilty for abandoning my companion to some indifferent doctor.

  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    we had to put down our girl earlier today after she had problems for 2 weeks straight and a couple of vet visits (i forgot what they were, im just sadly drawing a blank atm). she wasnt eating normally, not eating the prescription the vet gave us, reacting to anything and was struggling to even go down the stairs which was painful to see. we planned to actually send her on friday but as we got home from the vet today, she just started coughing up blood and it was extremely heartbreaking. we had to take her right then and there. were keeping her little plush shark around since she used it as a pillow

    this place is definitely going to be lonely for a bit now

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Good. One less pest on this planet. Get a real pet next time.

    >>t. dog, reptile, bird, pig, deer, and fish bro.

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm a vet. Putting our pets to sleep is one of the kindest things we can do for them at the end of their lives. It still sucks and hurts.

    Ask me questions if you want. I'll help if I can.

  4. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Good. One less pest on this planet. Get a real pet next time.

    >t. dog, reptile, bird, pig, deer, and fish bro.

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    F. I'm genuinely sorry for your loss OP.

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    One of my two childhood cats is being put to sleep right now. He's been getting skinnier the past few months, and just two days ago we noticed that he couldn't walk on his hind legs anymore. yesterday my mom took him to the vet and we were informed that he had advanced kidney failure. My mother and her bf took him away 50 minutes ago after a day of giving him everything he liked, and i don't know how to cope. I'm not crying much anymore. I just feel like shit. He was only 11 years old. He should have had more time.

    Pic related is him and his brother a bit over two years ago. He's the striped one.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      My second childhood dog died today. I saw her just last week and she still seemed healthy, but nontheless 13 years old. Got the call from my parents that she had been stressed and in pain the last couple of days, and today was the end. Now both the dogs I've grown up with have passed, and it feels like that part of my life is further away than ever before. When my first dog died I was far away and couldn't make it home to see her, so today I'm glad I could atleast be there to pet her one last time and help bury her in the backyard.
      Stay strong Anons, remember the good times and make sure to print all the photos that you have together.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Sorry man. I hope we both get through this alright. I don't know what else to say, except that i hate the way this world was made. Why is death and decay necessary for life and growth? It didn't have to be that way

  7. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    it's better to let your cat sleep in before she gets to the point she is meowing out in pain.
    And hearing your cat meow out in pain is heartbreaking
    Personally I wait while it still appears they are enjoying life. If it is clear they are only in pain, they dont eat, they dont drink. They dont act like they used to. It is probably over in 2 days

  8. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Sedate her.
    My cat on her last 2 days was suffering too much.
    She had had her 2nd stroke and couldn't eat or drink. Every 3 minutes, she would try to walk just to fall flat to her face. She was restless and very confused.
    The vet said there was nothing more he could do but she could go sleeping peacefully. So, he sedated her. Seeing her sleep put my heart at ease. She endured for a half day more.

  9. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I am putting my dog to sleep this week, at home. I think I feel worse now than I have ever in my life but I know in my heart it is the best option. She has kidney disease, barely eats, started going in the house, and nothing I did or tried helped. If I kept her alive it would be for my sake while she became even worse. My nightmare is her dropping dead or getting so bad that I have to do it at the vet. As shitty as I feel now it would be 10x worse if that happened.

  10. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Have you gotten a second opinion?

  11. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Is she still moving around? If not, it's the end of the line. It's pretty obvious when it's time to call it quits, I just watched (literally) my cat die a few days ago. I was going to end it for him that day but he couldn't make it through the night, passed around 4am. Regardless of what you decide, ultimately it's over when it's over. There's no need to beat yourself up on whether or not you pull the plug yourself.

  12. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I went through your exact dame situation and amazingly enough you r cat looks exactly like mine. I foolishly believed i could save her but in the process i made her suffer more, arguably the most painful week i had i my life. idk what else is to do but give her the best moments of her life NOW. As soon as she starts feeling worse and worse you must put her down because i dont want you to go through the same shit i went through

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Idk if cremation if your thing but thats what i ended up doing with her and she is with me now become i couldn’t let her go, the same day i had to wait til they gave me her i experienced loneliness like never before but i got slightly better after they gave me her back in a fancy box, kinda expensive but she deserved it. Im really sorry for all of this

  13. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It really sucks but it's clear what you ought to do as the human.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I don't know how to live with myself after killing my beloved cat.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You're not killing her bud, you're just making the transition easier on her. She certainly loved you OP, and though it's hard to do this thing, it's right. It's gonna be my boy's time to go soon, I'll be there every step of the way to ease his discomfort as much as possible. They shouldn't be scared on their way out, they should be at peace with us nearby, and at least we're all lucky enough that we can give that to them.
        You'll grieve afterwards, and that's normal. Time will make it easier, and hopefully after you've had a chance to heal, you'll find a new kitty to share your love. We can't keep them alive forever, but we can give them great lives while they're here. Thanks for being a good catfriend OP

  14. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Catcer

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      we did it r*ddit!

  15. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    My cat and Ieave this world together. I don't know what you should do.

  16. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Don't let her suffer Anon. All you can do is be there for her when she passes, and know in your heart you gave her the best owner she could ever get, that's why she'll always love you. Please don't feel guilty, your cat would never ever blame you, and would hate to see you beat yourself up over being a superb guardian to her.

    Stay strong man, what you're going though is the worst part of being a pet owner.

  17. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    There are docs that do at home euthanasias and they are not indifferent. I had my brother's dog put down, the vet who did it had had a stroke and was unable to keep practicing veterinary medicine so she decided to provide her services to terminally ill animals. She cried when she was finished and said it was never easy for her to do that but believe me it's so much better for the animal than to have to deal with the agonizing stress of going to the vet, ESPECIALLY for a cat who will not appreciate the chance for a car ride. I had my twenty year old cat put down a couple of years ago, the vet was again very sympathetic and professional. I never felt guilty about it because I knew it was the best choice for her. There's a point at which there is no quality of life left. I kept my cat comfortable as much as possible for as long as possible but there's a point when they won't eat or drink and you need to give them pill after pill after pill multiple times a day just to keep them going that they really just need to rest.

    Do what I did, look into vets providing at-home euthanasias. Take your time on it. Find someone you like, that you think you can trust, and call them. Talk to them for a bit and if you like them rely on their help to put your cat at peace.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Did you pull the trigger, so to speak?

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >twenty year old cat
      supreme eldercat wizard

  18. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Please help me find some peace, bros. I love this little creature so much.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'm so sorry OP. She looks and sounds like such a wonderful cat. I know exactly what you're going through and it's hell, there's nothing anyone can really say now that'll make you feel much better. In time you'll be able to look back with fondness but for the moment it's just going to be awful. I'm so sorry.

      This

      There are docs that do at home euthanasias and they are not indifferent. I had my brother's dog put down, the vet who did it had had a stroke and was unable to keep practicing veterinary medicine so she decided to provide her services to terminally ill animals. She cried when she was finished and said it was never easy for her to do that but believe me it's so much better for the animal than to have to deal with the agonizing stress of going to the vet, ESPECIALLY for a cat who will not appreciate the chance for a car ride. I had my twenty year old cat put down a couple of years ago, the vet was again very sympathetic and professional. I never felt guilty about it because I knew it was the best choice for her. There's a point at which there is no quality of life left. I kept my cat comfortable as much as possible for as long as possible but there's a point when they won't eat or drink and you need to give them pill after pill after pill multiple times a day just to keep them going that they really just need to rest.

      Do what I did, look into vets providing at-home euthanasias. Take your time on it. Find someone you like, that you think you can trust, and call them. Talk to them for a bit and if you like them rely on their help to put your cat at peace.

      is a very good post and is exactly what I was going to recommend. I got my vet to do a house call to put my cat to sleep, and I think it was about as peaceful and gentle as it could've been. She sat on my lap in the living-room with the rest of the family surrounding her, and just went to sleep.

      Don't feel like you're being an asshole by keeping her alive for now, because you aren't - your hesitation is because you love her and don't want to let go, not because of selfishness. There's no option here that isn't incredibly sad and difficult. I'm just sorry.

Your email address will not be published.