Dear random white women in public: please stop touching our dogs Dog walkers of color are imperiled by boundary-less white women forcing themselves onto our dogs. This can lead to bites and police interactions. Just stop.

If you’re a pet owner of color, you know what I’m talking about. You can’t walk a mile with your doggo without some white woman swooping in to pet your poor critter. Sometimes they’ll even try to pick it up — or kiss it.

It’s like these women feel entitled to our dogs, as if they’re public property. It’s really off-putting and makes me uncomfortable. I don’t know these women, and I don’t want them getting all up in my dog’s personal space — or mine. They need to respect our boundaries and keep their hands to themselves — unless we give them explicit permission to interact and touch.

I usually just give a forced smile and say something like, “Oh, he loves strangers,” but inside I’m seething. Inside I know that just a few years ago many of these same women would have approached in the same way — to touch my Black hair.

Dog walkers of color often have to navigate dangerous spaces, and have invented a multitude of strategies to stay out of harm’s way. This humorous comic strip demonstrates one way to shut down invasive white women.

It’s not that I don’t think people should be able to pet my dog, because he is adorable and does love attention. But there is a difference between someone who politely asks to pet him and someone who just comes up and starts touching him without permission. The latter makes me feel like my personal space is being invaded, and it sends the message that the property of a person of color is up for grabs by white women.

And there is the much darker side to this phenomenon. White women <–>dog interceptions can also be dangerous — even deadly for the owner.

Our dogs aren’t public property. Stop imperiling us, and respect our boundaries.

Many people of color are rightfully suspicious of strangers who try to touch them or their belongings without permission. It’s a basic boundary violation that can quickly escalate into something more threatening. And when it comes to our dogs, they are often the first line of defense against would-be assailants.

When some random white woman feels entitled to put her hands all over Fido, she’s essentially putting both you and your pet in danger. Even if the intentions are good (I’ll offer the benefit of doubt for most of the cases), dogs often don’t like being accosted by total strangers — especially if they’re not used to it. This goes doubly when the stranger is from an outsider and different looking culture that has historically hunted families of color for sports.

Dogs are smart and can sense a lot more than we think.

White dog interceptions can lead to bites or other accidents that could have been easily avoided had the person just respected your dog’s space. And that, of course, can lead to the police being called on a person of color.

I don’t need to spell out the tragic end to that story.

So please, for the sake of everyone involved, but especially the person of color you are effectively trying to force into a fatal police interaction: keep your damn hands (and mouth) off of other people’s pets unless you have explicit permission from the owner to do your white woman smoochie-schmoo. You’re being a pest, and your pathological need for intimate interactions with strangers and their pets can mean death for us.

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  1. That’s true people should not just approach dogs they know nothing about assuming they’re friendly. It’s easy for someone who is white and also has little sense (especially women) to assume that just because they pose no danger to anyone that nothing could pose a danger to them. I adopted a rescue beagle that was abused and would bite other dogs if they got near and some women would even ignore my verbal with hands warning that he bites.

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    • Just because we don’t fuck our pets like you do, doesn’t mean we hate them. It’s just you dirty whites don’t know how to differentiate pets to humans — since it is common in your culture to perform sexual activities with your pets, especially your women.

      Personally, I wouldn’t want a white woman coming up to my dog if I had one either. Would view it as a random man on the street approaching a random little girl. It’s like a predatory sexual instinct amongst white woman, they view dogs as a potential mate.

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