>feed her the best food
>pour her the purest of H2O
>take her to the best of vets
>buy her any toy to keep her entertained
>treat her like a queen
>respect her privacy
>in return she : hisses at me for causing any minor inconvenience, bites me if i touched her in some way, doesn't respect my personal space, won't set on my lap
Catfags, how do you manage ?
>adopt her. >feed her the best food. >pour her the purest of H2O. >take her to the best of vets
>hisses at me for causing any minor inconvenience, bites me if i touched her in some way, doesn't respect my personal space, won't set on my lap
that means it's working
Thats part of it right there OP. Male cats in general tend to be more affectionate and close to their owners while lady cats tend to be a bit more aloof.
Which isn't to say you can't have a queen that is an absolute sweetie or a tom who is a cockbag.
But yeah, cats is cats, you've got to appreciate and approach them on their own terms. Thats sort of the fun of having those creepy weirdo aliens as pets.
Why are cats so fucking cute?
Well, thats the issue. YOU dont chose a cat, cat chooses YOU. However, sometimes cat can have PTSD or some disorder and will be very unsocial/antisocial, and so you end up with a situation like that.
Idk how to manage that, because my cat loves me and i love her very much. Again, let the cat pick you.
All animals are like this. Even a chosen human or dog will never really love you, not for years. The feline lack of adaptability just makes it severe. They can’t hold a facade.
Its true. My cat doesnt like my mom. Used to hiss at her. But kinda calmed down and now just runs away from her or avoids her. Kitty loves sleeping on my bed and on me though - uses me as a chaise.
>treat her like a queen
>anons pls why is my cat an entitled bitch??
betas will never learn
>Buy her as an 8-week-old kitten.
>Dump grainfree kibble in a bowl every few days.
>Refill water when it's empty.
>Call her stupid.
>Harass and rub my face on her.
>In return she: Loves, plays, and curls up in my lap every morning before I get ready for work.
There's nothing inherently wrong with adopted cats, and in concept adopting is the right thing to do, but too many rescue cats have already had shit lives leading to shit temperaments.
>visit catfag friend
>randomly grabs the animals or tries to play with them with 0 prompt or interest from the pet
>doesn't even coax them, just starts petting them randomly and thinks he's being affectionate and friendly when he pesters them
>picks the animals up randomly, throws them when he's done
>"i love cats but they are so asocial haha"
>greet cats every time i visit and don't interact with them until they show interest
>never touch them unless they clearly request it
>they follow me around his house and sit on my lap
>one of the cats falls asleep on me
>"wtf i've never seen a cat sleep"
>"why don't they hiss at you, it's me who gives them food"
>"man these animals must be racist, i put a lot of money into them but they're rude towards me"
Your own pet disliking you shows that you have no social skills and/or thought you were buying a living toy to entertain you
Are you actually interacting with her often or are you just giving her the best shit and expecting her to like you?
Whenever she lets me touch her. She likes to set next to me whole i am working on my laptop. She losses interest in her toys fast and unlike the other younger cats I've had, she hates when i play with her using my hands
I don't think thats the reason. I treat cats like i treat my women, i don't too attached or dependent on either and also doesn't expect much in return. But this one is being an ungrateful bitch
She is British, so yeah she is 🙂
>op are you reading her social cues correctly?
Yeah, not my first cat, but the first adult cat. She's super relaxed around me, kneeding my shit rubbing against me n all. She would follow me around the house and when i set down to do something, she would keep a 1 meter distance from me.
>She is British
there you have it. she'll follow you around, rub and "help" you with things, both by staring at you doing them and mimicing (like digging up seeds you just planted) but she won't sit in your lap. she might sleep on you or sit between you and the laptop.
is she friendly/playfully biting?
she shouldn't hiss though. does she have bad human experiences?
>does she have bad human experiences?
Probably, i know nothing about the previous owner
>she sounds really chill so why arent you happy
I can only pet 15% of her body, i just don't feel the connection. Plus she is way too dramatic, she thinks being picked up is a good enough reason for her to be scared and hide for few days
she sounds really chill so why arent you happy
>she would keep a 1 meter distance from me.
thats just how they are.
you pet them for a while, they then walk a metre away from you and lie down.
is this your first cat? for how long have you had her?
>bites me if i touched her in some way, doesn't respect my personal space, won't set on my lap
these somewhat contradict each other unless you elaborate. she gets close to you but bites if you touch?
some cats don't sit in your lap, for instance british shorthairs are very independent and anti-snuggly.
I barely do any of that for my cat and he loves the shit out of me. Might be your submissive demeanor. Cats tend to be abusive towards betas, not unlike women.
Works on my machine. The only time my cat has ever hissed at me was when she didn't recognize me for whatever reason.
I live in an apartment anon, i can't adopt a dog
do you think you're doing cats "right" any more than an apartment dweller would do dogs "right"?
>its ok just keep them entertained indoors and walk them outside to shit 4 times a day
>do you think you're doing cats "right" any more than an apartment dweller would do dogs "right"?
Nah, she's allowed to leave any time, i live in the second floor and the way down from the balcony isn't hard to climb down, moreover, my apartment is quite spacious. I won't get a dog because i dont wanna annoy my neighbours with its barking
we get kittens. adult cats are a crapshoot for two reasons.
one, cats are borderline asocial, very unintelligent, and unable to adapt quickly. retards mistake this for not being domesticated but a wildcat would be even worse. the best experience is had when they bond with you as a kitten because their only real strong social bond is the one they have with their mother. even a typically loving purebred cat will be abrasive to deal with if you get some abandoned and likely traumatized adult.
two, there's a cat-cultist culture around (especially in the UK) that involves having a bunch of unneutered cats roaming around outdoors. this totally random and natural selection reverses some of domestications accomplishments so you end up with the cat equivalent to a husky, shiba inu, or dingo. genuinely less domestic, more "mature" and independent, and not genetically inclined to love and cuddle you all the time. domestication is making something more childlike so it acts like a kitten/puppy its whole life. free-breeding landraces are nothing more than a slightly dumber, less aggressive, and significantly less skittish version of the wild animal. if you get one of these even as a kitten it might not even like you and would definitely not like anyone else.
>adults cats are a crapshoot
totally dependent on the cat. i adopted mine as an adult and he's extremely clingy, follows me everywhere and is always begging to be pet or to sit in my lap. wont let me shit alone
op are you reading her social cues correctly? it surprises me how many people try treating a cat exactly like a dog and then are surprised when they dont respond the same way
>adult cats are a crapshoot
>totally dependent on the cat
if you do shit right they worship you for free. "dogs are loyal" my ass, the vast majority of them choose you. you earn it and you can throw it away. cats will love you and ignore everyone else until they die, unconditionally.
>he had his cats shit inside
lmao dirt is free. chad cats exclusively shit in the neighbors kids sandbox and learn to use their yard when the dog isn't there.
how is cat shit all over your own yard and neighborhood "chad"
it is because of people like you that i dont care if a cat suffers
i would rather see your collard vermin drown in a rain barrel than waste time and resources doing something more humane to control it
don't care seethe more dogfucker
pic related my cat
what a pussy ass looking dog
Cats find dirt to bury feces, dumbfuck
lmao catgays really think shit with some soil dusted on top has disappeared
no wonder you have toxobrain
cats are a crapshoot
dependent on the cat.
i got two kittens from a friend long ago and dida lot of research and spent a lot of time and money raising them properly..
absolutely least rewarding pet ownership experience ive ever been through
i kept them for a few years trying my best to pretend i didnt resent every single thing about them
>the expensive food you throw most of away
>literally paying for dirt and the constant smell of shit and piss and never being able to enjoy a clean home
>the sound they make at 3am
>the ugly expensive enrichment garbage you have to fill your house with to keep them from contaminating the kitchen with their disgusting piss feet and also knowing theyre contaminating the kitchen when youre not there anyway
>gross hair everywhere on everything all the time
ive loved and mourned the demise every animal ive ever had until the day i decided to get rid of those fucking horrible cats
one of the best days i ever had
>one, cats are borderline asocial,
Felines are extremely social creatures you fuckwit armchair psychologist
>cats are extremely social
they're borderline asocial and extremely retarded
literally half as many cortical neurons as a chihuahua and their social structure consists of hanging around one other cat and being afraid of the biggest one. there are spiders with that much social complexity.
I'm pretty sure cats are a mammal that has devolved to the mental level of a lizard. Solitary hunters gotta conserve calories and the brain is the first thing that goes. That's also why wolves and hyenas are smart as fuck, and lions are smarter than their peers, but foxes, mongoose, and tigers really aren't that bright.
Yeah ok armchair zoologist. So full of shit